Ben's Profile



I'm a 50-year old married gay guy in Western New York. I am a career federal employee working in public relations and a creative writer, nature lover, and deep thinker.

Vital Info


November 23, 2020

Buffalo, United States 14201

July 4, 1971

Cancer Info

Anal Cancer

squamous cell carcinoma

December 12, 2018

Stage 3




Cancer made me less carefree. I miss being able to take things for granted, like the assumption I have plenty of years ahead of me.

A new appreciation and respect for my butt. :)

I would like to connect with people who have had experiences similar to my own, who might be able to relate or understand the nuances of having cancer that are hard to explain.

I signed up for a clinical research study, but I was selected for the observation group, instead of the group that would take Immune Therapy medication.

Love and kindness are the only gift I want or need from friends and family. They could make gifts to Roswell Park, if they feel they need to do more, or give to a dog charity because I love dogs.

Roswell Park Comprehensive Cancer Center, Buffalo NY

Remember the connection between physical health and mental health. Yoga and meditation helped me a great deal.

Don't be afraid to get therapy if you want or need it. Be good to yourself, and do whatever it takes to feel better mentally as well as physically.

March 4, 2019


Symptoms that caused me to make the incorrect self-diagnosis of hemorrhoids, starting with small amounts of blood on toilet paper, which eventually increased to levels that were alarming.


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